The & # 9650; It’s the little guy with the blood hula!
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& # 9650; Big gem and little ertao
From this, I also entered 2 children times formally ~ (here should applause! Because the mother of the second child is iron man.
There are a lot of different places in Australia and China. I feel it bit by bit and find it very interesting. I want to talk about this topic for a long time.
Xiao bao shi was born in xiamen to a woman and a child. At that time, he was born by caesarean section for various reasons.
This is an extra you in my world. & have spent
My birth and confinement diary: kiss my baby
Last year of accident had small 2 Amoy, because it is accident, do not know, pregnant early still flew the United States, hainan, Inner Mongolia and Taiwan…
After having a family meeting and discussing with stone, I decided to choose to be born in Melbourne for two main reasons:
First, little treasure stone in China will be a year later to go to primary school (birthday in September), kindergarten class to read more than a year to Australia just good grade one (Australia started to go to primary school at the age of 5);
Second, pregnancy can no longer high-frequency feifeifei, just suitable to squat immigration prison (5 years of accumulated residence for 2 years), Australia’s air good food good, also suitable for pregnant women.
After the happy decision, my family bought the air ticket to Melbourne together, packed my bags and started my “baby birth journey” in Australia.
After the happy decision, my family bought the air ticket to Melbourne together, packed my bags and started my “baby birth journey” in Australia.
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The & # 9650; Precious stone, you are going to be a brother
& # 9650; 4 months
The & # 9650; 5 months pregnant ~lake entrance go out to catch crabs
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& # 9650; 7 months pregnant ~ picking cherries on the farm
The & # 9650; 8 months pregnant ~ learn to do “benbang dishes” in the neighborhood sister’s family
& # 9650; Due date countdown 3 days, brother you want to come out on time! & # 9650; Brother, do you understand me?
The & # 9650; Ah ~~ he understood, and I said hello!
Think at the outset to be pregnant to give birth to a baby in Australia this matter is completely two eyes a black, no reference material, do not know to be pregnant and domestic examination project a different, seek what doctor, if at that time have an “Australia novice mother must read article” good.
Special thanks are given to xu jing, zhu zhu and Sandy, who gave me warm help and guidance during pregnancy
Public? Private? At home?
In Australia, there are three choices: public, private and home-born.
The medical system in Australia is divided into public and private. Public doctors and hospitals are subsidized by the government, and they can be free if they hold medicare card. Private doctors and hospitals offer one-on-one services, but the higher costs (about 5k-6k) require private health insurance to cover expenses or pay out of pocket.
Both public and private, you will need a letter of recommendation from your GP.
Because of the experience of having a baby, we actually acquiced in our heart that we would continue to have cesarean section this time, and we were not confident enough to see doctors in English, so we decided to choose private doctors, one on one, for better communication and communication. Ann, who can speak Chinese, was recommended by many people on the Internet. However, I could not make an appointment for more than four months. He referred me to Dr.Binh T.l., an obstetrician of Vietnamese descent. His medical skills are very good. My GP thought my English was ok, so I asked him out.
After several months of consultation, it is proved that he is indeed a very good doctor. He is cheerful and enthusiastic, and the process of consultation is very easy. In the past few months, my English is also greatly improved, because every time before the consultation, I will learn the words I may use by myself, and when I don’t understand, I will even write and draw pictures to communicate with me.
[TIPS] : in Australia, obstetrics and gynecology doctors make appointments on a first-come-first-served basis, especially mothers who want to make appointments with Chinese doctors must be early! Had better be able to verify pregnancy to make an appointment!
& # 9650; Write notes like this ~ haha
& # 9650; Or move a small model ~
[B ultrasound looks like baby meeting]
The biggest difference between production check here and home is, B exceed and clinic depart, want to run two places to cannot finish on the same day, unlike domestic turn go upstairs to queue up wait for B exceed, here take the recommendation letter of the doctor to the center that appoint to do, the time that makes an appointment to arrive generally wants a week later, need not queue also very convenient nevertheless.
Every time you do a B overbirth examination, there will be a big screen facing the mother, the doctor will explain to you, this is the baby’s nose, chin… This is the heart, this is the hand… This is chick ; Wow baby turned around, a shy boy!
B ultrasound has never been so much fun, every time it becomes a “meeting” with the baby.
& # 9650; Big B ultrasound in pregnancy
Ca ca ca ca ca, nurse little sister very generous said, “I each Angle to a photo, to you as a souvenir ~”
[Buddha department of diagnostic experience]
And every time I see OB, it’s… Buddha department, very different from the busy list of domestic inspection, for example, 29 weeks of inspection (a typical day) :
To nurse front desk after Chenk – in little sister sent me a list (below) let me fill out to OB, to OB even when family and her husband went out, the one-to-one asked I recently state of mind, the main content is concerned about my recent mood and life, the question of whether or not to meet what need help channel (PPD) at source
questions include: do you worry about your daily life? Will you feel unhappy? Do you or your partner have medication or alcohol problems? Have you moved/had financial problems/lost a loved one/been ill in the last 11 months? Is your mother very supportive? When you are unhappy, do you have a way to tell?
OB always starts the same way: have you had any problems lately? Then I will give a brief explanation and answer my questions in 2-3 minutes. If my English is really beyond my comprehension, I will draw a picture and explain it to me. This method is really effective.
OB: let’s have a quick B scan to see the size of the baby… Good… Good… Good… All Normal! The weight of baby is now 1.6kg! A: wow! This Angle is good, I will print a photo for you as a souvenir. [too happy]
Me: do you have weight here? Can you see if I’m gaining weight too fast?
OB: you look very good. The sugar tolerance test is normal. Don’t worry about your weight.
Me: should next 30 weeks begin to do fetal heart monitor?
OB: why? Your baby all indicators are normal, you do not need that!
Me: but… I have a second trimester every two weeks in China… Is there any further inspection to be done?
OB: En… You should get a whooping cough vaccine with your husband!
Me: isn’t the vaccine a trace amount of virus? Don’t you have to be pregnant to play?
OB: Nonono… This is pregnant 28-34 weeks dozen best! So your baby is born with antibodies, and it’s a free government health insurance program!
I:… [Mr Khan]
OB: if nothing else, I’ll see you in two weeks. Next time I’ll discuss symphysis pain with you!
Me: thank you doctor, C U…
& # 9650; I’m 39 weeks pregnant
Australia’s dietary requirements during pregnancy are different from those in China. What is not recommended for pregnant women are: alcoholic drinks, soft ice cream, soft cheese, ham, sashimi and cantaloupe.
Coffee, boxed ice cream and barbecue were not restricted, and when it came to exercise, my doctor told me I could do anything as long as the intensity was within my comfort zone, so I kept swimming (1.2 kilometers each time) for 39 weeks.
The & # 9650; This is the vitamin that I am pregnant and lactation period eats now, recommend!
Both philae and bioland’s DHA are recommended by Australian doctors and are recommended to be taken until the end of lactation. DHA can promote the development of the baby’s brain and avoid the mother’s “silly three years of pregnancy” and postpartum depression.
When you are constipated in the later stage of pregnancy, you rely on lekang cream. Pure plants are very safe to solve the constipation problem, and OB recommends it.
LIFESAPCE probiotics for pregnant women is a good thing that people often come to me for more than they know. When they are suffering from immune problems, a little discomfort or cold symptoms, they can be taken as soon as possible.
Milk calcium is small treasure stone classmate eats, pregnant later period when my crus can crural, I took his calcium tablet to eat directly, this is liquid capsule is absorbed very well, ate a week to do not have what symptom only
Shun or profile?
Because the little treasure stone was cut, we have two choices this time (if there is no special reason, we must have a natural birth). I had told OB that I would continue to cut it, but his words moved me and he said: “You the body all aspects of the index are good, baby is now into the basin (I expect birth weight 7 kg or so), you might think the secondary cesarean section nothing, It ‘s ok, but, I think is not only the health of the baby, I’m more concerned about the health of the mother and recovery, I hope you can consider again, suggest that now start raspberry leaf tea (37 weeks 2 bags a day, 38 weeks every three bags, 39 weeks every day 4 bags) – the legendary Australian midwifery ShenCha!
I can help you with Sweep& in week 38; Stretch (membrane scan), or we make a plan to divide it into 40 weeks, and then we don’t start the c-section at 40 weeks. If we start the c-section before, we will try the natural labor, I will use epidural (painless labor), either way, you won’t feel pain.”
(P.S. Australia’s private obstetrician charges a fixed fee, time is money, and such advice actually brings him more time and trouble, which is what moves me.)
this small ertao is still calm baby, membrane scan also done, raspberry tea also drank, double crown diameter has been 10 he, to 40 weeks or no signs of launch…
So, I did it again…
& # 9650; Before entering the operating room
Here, the father is allowed to follow the delivery room, either by natural birth or cesarean section (which is not allowed in China), which is the best moral support for the mother and also a tradition, because the newborn’s umbilical cord has to be cut by the father.
[the warmth in the cold operating room]
C-sections are impressive here. And domestic different places is, the whole has had a tender young midwife grabbed me by the hand, and he is very optimistic gentle tone of voice in my ear and I said, I know you do not like the “surprise” in the operating room, so I will accompany you and tell you every thing to happen next, such as: “now give me back the disinfection, has a very, very ice piece of cloth to scrub my back, please adhere to the”, “ready to dozen anesthetic oh, 3, 2, 1… OCH!” “, “we’re gonna see the baby now”, “we’re gonna start stitches now”…
So accompany me until the end of the operation, I was pushed out of the operating room, do not know the domestic “doula” is not so.
Another difference is that the operating room in Australia is so cold! The temperature of the air conditioner is extremely low, and the room temperature is only 10 degrees at most. I only wear a surgical suit, shivering with cold (australians seem to be very afraid of the heat), and the midwife found a thick blanket to cover me with just a little better.
& # 9650; Time tick-tock… Finally meeting my number two!
My world from now on have an you ~ ▲ The nurse skillfully and quickly dried the mucous and blood on the small ertao body ~
& # 9650; A midwife took this photo of a father cutting an umbilical cord
The & # 9650; Mother and son embrace for the first time
After cutting the umbilical cord, I was wrapped in a three-layer candle package. At the first moment, I took it to my arms and held it close to my heart
I was crying and holding my little ertao for about 5 minutes.
This and domestic a clean baby immediately carried out to the family to take away, leaving only the puerpera lonely in the delivery room indifferent feeling completely different.
& # 9650; Family photo with tears in smile
We at the same time happy wipe tears while looking at crumpled small two Amoy, after the tension of tears and joy melted the cold operating room.
& # 9650; Small 2 Amoy be pulled to weigh weight, measure height, do all sorts of record ~
& # 9650; See small 2 Amoy again already was in the transparent small bed of ward, the little treasure stone that waits anxiously finally saw little brother!
The card on the bed says cangratulations,It’s a boy, and this pink striped blanket is the first gift of every newborn in Australia. Under the bed are prepared diapers, wet wipes and various baby care samples.
The & # 9650; Holding my brother for the first time
The nurse beckoned me to give her the phone, but before I knew it, she pushed the phone down at the children and took photos with the baby stone
Then she said something to precious that impressed me: “wow! Congratulations on becoming a brother! From now on, today is not only your brother’s birthday, but also your “brother day”. You will be the best brother in the world! Now you can help mother take care of brother, for example, brother is not good to eat milk, you are responsible for scratching brother’s feet!”
In a word, the little treasure stone, who was nervous and nervous about the new family members, threw himself into the team to help me take care of my baby.
& # 9650; The cute midwife comes to the room to give the baby a bath (there is a mini bathtub in the room).
This is for us to give a baby bath is already familiar, but for the new parents, how to stall this soft red “little thing” and successfully give him a bath is really a knowledge. 【 embarrassing situation in ward 】
For the Chinese, the embarrassing thing was that there was no boiled water room in the hospital. A glass of ice water! Although my heart is refused, but the medicine must eat, I had to silently over, with the medicine to drink… (then bring hot water from home every day.)
Every ward has a bathroom, the next morning, the midwife came to me and said, you go take a bath, your wound is waterproof tape, don’t worry, I…
Two hours later, the midwife came to me again and said, “are you out of the shower?” It must feel much more comfortable! I…
however, Australian hospitals also pay attention to maternal care. Unlike the previous legend, they do not “sit in the month” at all, but have different emphases — for example, the doctor asked me to wear medical stockings (to quickly reduce swelling and prevent varicose veins); List fiber and protein in your diet; It is also required to stay in bed for 6 weeks (42 days) and not lift heavy objects or do housework.
[Australian “month meal”]
The “monthly meal” in the hospital is ordered in advance every day to provide maternal meals (three meals ➕ Two snacks), the most anticipated thing during that time was to get the MENU check every day
The “monthly meal” of the hospital still continues the style of cold and raw side dishes and desserts of western food, with a variety of vegetables as the main match, with low-fat meat.
The & # 9650; One day of the hospital menu
The & # 9650; Shrimp with spinach salad ▲ Squid sticks with salad ▲ Salmon with seed rice
& # 9650; Japanese style chicken chop rice
& # 9650; With wine and ice cream, I…
& # 9650; Breakfast is basically milk cereal, snacks are usually a variety of cakes with tea or coffee ~
I still follow the Chinese tradition, so, these “month son meal” all gave stone to eat, oneself still follow the Chinese tradition method diet, drink the medicine meal meal that brings from the home everyday to drink month son water.
The hospital has a 24-hour nurse station, the first few nights in the hospital if feel up to sleep too tired can also be entrusted to the nurse concentrated custody of the baby, when the nurse needs to nurse will be back to the mother, to ensure that the puerpera has enough sleep, can also alleviate the new parents anxiety and at a loss.
A newborn is a no-product with no instructions and really needs guidance on how to comfort and feed your baby in a “scientific and correct” way when your baby is crying or your milk is up to your neck.
For infant care, the hospital has some specific requirements for me, such as:
When lactation mother and child do not wear clothes, establish skin bond, it is completely naked really!
The baby can only use the wrap not to cover the quilt, the crib cannot have the bed circumference, the child must put in the crib the crib end position;
Be responsible for bathing, touching and bonding every day (suggest dad do it);
Do not use any scented care products for the first 6 weeks, so that the baby can recognize the smell of the family.
& # 9650; Welcome sweet baby boy!
The next day after c-section, my friends sent balloons and flowers, and the whole ward became so beautiful. However, I was able to get out of bed and take photos. In short, my knife edge basically has no pain, really no pain, every time the doctor asked me if the pain is 10, I now feel the number of level, I am really embarrassed to say 0, so every time answer 1-2. Side cesarean section has not let a person remember the life “the stomach”, the doctor said only want me to stick to mother’s milk to help uterine contractions, almost three days or so I don’t have like what things in the room to the small 2 tao commemorative photos up ~ remember better gems out of the hospital, the wound or a dull ache, also cannot walk easily.
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& # 9650; On the 3rd day of my birth, I snapped a picture of a little ertao who had just taken off her clothes and fed her milk
I love to see him yawn.
& # 9650; Elder brother good
The third day of the evening, small treasure stone after school to see me, I let him hug small ertao took a group of photos, you can imagine, these are I stand on the bed to take…
& # 9650; Small 2 amao sleep special sweet, elder brother one hug, take advantage of opportunity to snuggle in elder brother bosom.
Look at the little treasure stone childhood photos, the two brothers are really like like!
The & # 9650; Baby stone is 30 days old
The & # 9650; Xiao ertao was born 30 days ago
Full moon that day, the integrity of the autumn cool, with two brothers to Macedonia mountain red leaves, careful to lift him, just click to a yawn, good fun ~
The baby stone was two months old
two months of small ertao ~
Independent sleep training
Because old size when crib spells big bed next to me to sleep, so until break breast milk time just break off night milk to sleep whole sleep, oneself feel exhausted, so this time have second to sum up experience and lesson, secretly determined to must begin to cultivate baby independent sleep.
Small 2 amao from lead two months to begin to be able to fall asleep independently, now 100 days have passed, have already reached a sleep the length of whole sleep (8-9 hours), from the heart feel more and more easy to take, here special thanks to stone dad pay (dare to challenge with baby’s dad is good)! In the cultivation of small ertao sleep at night the whole thing.
One thing must first clear is that every baby is pure angel baby, no matter he crying, or do not drink milk, don’t go to bed, in the middle of the night, he really did not malicious, all this was just a way to express the uncomfortable, parents must be resistant to settle this time to find a way to find out why, baby must be immediately quiet down.
Baby sleep is very important, sleep is in the long body, the first three months is really the key period of sleep habits to develop, the earlier the training is easier, adjust the good child’s sleep habits, habits after the mother can have energy and physical strength to start their own life.
Australian midwives also gave us detailed advice on how to do this. Here are the highlights:
1. Cover for neonatal period
Newborn babies will have surprised jump reflection, already asleep baby suddenly jumped, basically will be scared yourself awake after hand waving, maybe they still don’t know if I have a hands and feet huidong, ha, ha, ha, this time must want to sleep good package, and to compare tight, don’t worry about him uncomfortable sleep, as if they are in the mother’s womb state continues, so was 45 minutes sleep cycle can sleep in an hour and a half, then slowly into three hours. As the months get older and the amount of milk you eat gets larger, this continuous sleep time gets significantly longer.
This is the default method in Australia. In the hospital, the midwife will repeatedly emphasize that infants are not allowed to cover up with quilts.
2. Sleep in a separate crib
When he’s with the boss when he is sleeping alone small bed, but her up in the middle of the night every day – feed – back again – midway cried again coax – again, it is so tired, so I just spell small bed side of the fence down big bed, nursing in the middle of the night over the last hug hello, feel relaxed a bit, but it turns out that this is not a wise decision, has been in the habit of night nursing little gems, until 13 months off breast milk.
The second child was born, my husband and I decided to of tacit understanding since the first day of the home and let him sleep small bed, cultivate the good habit of independent sleep, began in Australia in confined pediatric doctor’s advice, every time lactation are on both sides, 40 to 50 minutes, until the full moon is about 3 hours when up to drink milk, really feel very tired very tired, compared to feed little gems, long for six years old, feel poor strength and energy has a lot of… Everything comes to him who waits, however, continue to adhere to in the time of two months, he sleep cycle can reach 5 hours or so, at this time, night night, awake in old horse, no milk flavour relatively good coax, basically hold up in a few days will be able to continue to sleep for a couple of minutes, so, sleep cycle is more and more long, 8 hours to three months: 20:30 (nursing coax sleeping) – 4:30 (nursing) – at 8:30 (get up breastfeeding).
3. Use massage and light music to develop sleep rituals
The eldest child is born to take a bath every day, no matter how hot and cold the weather did not stop a day, before 2 years old, every day after taking a bath will also be in bed with baby oil massage, little treasure stone skin good health may have a lot to do with this habit. So after the second child was born, we still insisted on this habit, and began to give him a bath at about 19:30 every night, soak in water for a while and then go to the room for massage.
Note that massage after no longer tease him, but gentle told him to go to bed, began to quiet her, and play music (recommend schubert serenade, Mozart lullaby classic, such as classical music), and then put him in a small bed, patted gently, and then leave the room, to begin with small 2 tao will cry, don’t respond right away, looked at the table, insist to five minutes to go in, up pat to go to sleep, waiting for him to calm down and then put him to bed, gently told him, want to sleep, and then shut the door to go out, small 2 tao and began to cry, adhere to wait for 8 minutes to go in this time… Repeat all the time like this, every time the time that goes in is compared to last time lengthen 3 minutes, repeat like this about 3, 4 days later, small 2 amao can eat after milk don’t cry of lie on the bed oneself sleep long sleep, really very magical, recommend everybody treasure mom must try!
This method in THE MRAC WEISSBLUTH’s “Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child (THE BABY Sleep), THE book also has written, it is so effective that measurement, there is a book is also very good, is TRACY HOGG’s” THE BABY WHISPERER SOLVES ALL YOUR PROBLEMS (utility to parenting), you can buy online.
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[don’t forget to join the mother group when giving birth in Australia]
The area is the MONASH Melbourne, I live here when community doctor will give a new life in a medical registration and the formation of a baby before, during, and after this month’s mother mother group, a group, will be parenting lesson once a week for six weeks, everyone together, exchange parenting skills and know each other, perhaps because of Australia’s low birth rate, so the government paid more attention and emphasis on new mother’s guidance and help, new mothers with such social and poking fun at the exit, when my mother will be more enjoy the fun, the risk of depression will also be significantly reduced.
For me so soon came to Melbourne’s mom, this is also a very good chance to make friends, my mother has 8 groups, each class the baby in a row, first listen to the nurse parenting today topic (safety, how to add side dish, etc.) you poking fun at to communicate with each other her experience is a super happy thing.
Take a hair loss example:
The other day when we were in the community, one of our mothers said that she was losing her hair so much, a lot every day, and she was worried that she would soon become bald. The nurse said, “it’s ok, it’s normal, because you were pregnant. The hormones were different, there was a lot of extra hair, and now it was time to lose that hair.
A Chinese nurse might say, “if you lose your hair, you need to take care of it in a certain way. People here look like a bundle of nerves.
After more than two months, we joined with another group of mothers and gathered 20 Chinese babies whose birthdays were less than a month apart to hold a lively 100-day party together. This is also the first social memory of these lovely babies in Melbourne!
Hundred days of happiness! Children grow up faster than we can ever imagine!
Group photo with love ~
Super dad camp ~
Finally, finally, by the small two tao do a summary speech:
Being a mother is a tiring and happy chore,
Over the years, I have written down my experience of becoming a mother and Shared it with you.
I hope it helps the new mother,
Say of not complete place, also welcome senior mother message instruction!